After reading a couple of great blogs today about bisexuality (SistersTalk and Grrlpink, which I recommend that you read), I thought I'd throw in my two cents.  Rather than trying to process my thoughts on this again, I'm posting the comment I made on SistersTalk:

I think that the lesbian aversion to bisexual women comes not necessarily from the insecurity of knowing her partner could potentially leave her for another woman OR for a man but from wondering whether her partner would be satisfied with JUST a woman. I totally believe that a bisexual woman can be faithful and satisfied in a relationship with a woman, but I personally haven't met that many of them. And so often on "lesbian" message boards and chat rooms and in gay bars, women who are married to men come to cruise for lesbians to hook up with (while their husbands watch). They call themselves bisexual and maybe they are, but this sort of arrangement wouldn't work for any lesbian I know. Who wants to hook up with a woman who is married to a man? So, that's one way in which I think bisexuals have gotten a bad reputation--from women who aren't satisfied unless they have a man and a woman. That's what I think is scary about dating a bisexual. It is a shame that there is so much stereotyping and dissent between different people of the same (LGBT) community, because of course some bisexual people are monogamous.

I do think sexuality is complex and fluid. No black and white. It can take a lifetime to figure out what you are and what you want. Bisexual, like any sexual orientation, is a label we use to identify ourselves and doesn't have to pigeon-hole us into a strict behavior pattern. Some gay men, even big flaming nellie queens, will have sex with a woman now and then for whatever reason. It doesn't make them less gay or more bisexual. It's just something they did, not something that defines them. A lesbian can have sex with a man at some point, even after coming out as lesbian, without having to start identifying herself as bisexual if that's not how she sees herself. Straight men and women can have homosexual experiences without identifying as gay if that's not their primary inclination. I think, too, that it would be naive to say that there is no such thing as bisexuality, although I think most people do fall into the gay or straight categories. Whatever way people want to identify themselves is fine by me. I don't have any negative feelings about anyone being bisexual. I believe in tolerance, especially within our own community. I'm not a lesbian who is uncomfortable with gay men (although I know plenty of women who are). I love hanging out with my gay guy friends. I think some androgeny and gender-bending is pretty hot, too. But if I'm thinking about getting into a relationship with a woman, I think it is important to be honest about our sexual identities and what that means for us. I wouldn't have a problem dating a woman who identified as bisexual if it was clear that she preferred to be with either a man or a woman but not both at the same time. I wouldn't date a woman who was currently in a heterosexual relationship or who was "experimenting" with homosexuality. I want my woman to LOVE women, me in particular.

My neighbor is such an asshole. He's one of those paranoid old guys who has motion sensitive flood lights around his house as bright as the sun, at least two vicious Rotweillers in the back yard, and (I suspect) an arsenal of weapons in the basement that he'll never need to use, all this for "protection" even though we live in a very safe neighborhood and he doesn't own anything worth stealing.  His wife is a recluse.  Literally, she doesn't leave the house.  Not even to go out into her own yard.  I've lived beside them for over a year and I've never seen her.
More than once, we've been in our backyard and noticed him staring at us from his side of the fence.  I don't think he's a pervert or anything, just nosey.  But, it's a little unnerving to look up and see an eyeball staring through a crack in the fence and him just pretending we can't see him there.  They also have a clear view into our back yard from their kitchen, which is on that side of the house.
So, I had this bright idea to plant some bamboo along the fence on our side to give us some privacy.  My dad has this at his house and I think it looks great.  It grows in thickly and about 15 feet tall, making a sort of natural fence. It also sounds nice when the wind blows through it.  My father and my partner and I planted a row of these on our side of the fence.
The next week, we get a letter from our landlord stating that the old coot is complaining about the plants saying they are going to ruin his wood fence due to moisture and whatever.  She asked that we trim them back to make sure they weren't touching his fence.  Fair enough.  We made sure no branches were anywhere near his fence.
The next day, the old coot came over and confronted my partner when she got home from work.  He was raising hell about it saying that he owned the wood fence, the chain link fence on our side of the property and also a few feet into our back yard past the fence.  He was threatening to take down both fences and cut down the bamboo himself.  Talking about calling a lawyer.  He said he talked to R. about it (our landlord's husband).  My partner told him that L., our landlord, just asked us to trim it back.  He said, "Who is L.?"  My partner informed the neighbor that L. was our landlord.  That she actually owned the property, not R. He said, "Well, that explains a lot."  He doesn't really think women should own property or make decisions for  themselves.  He said, in fact, that his wife was the most upset about the bamboo being planted.  He said,  "you know how women get upset about everything so easy."  Even though, like I said, she never steps outside the house. Apparently, she likes to peek at us through the window of her kitchen, too. My partner told him we'd appreciate him not looking at us through the fence and keeping his rabid dogs from snarling and trying to jump the fence every time we were in our back yard.
Anyway, to avoid further drama, we just took down the bamboo.  We really like the house and want to stay there.  Of course, after we did this he started backing up and saying well, you didn't have to completely take it down, you could have moved it in a few feet, blah, blah, blah.  This was just what he was saying now that he got what he wanted.  Now he's trying to say he doesn't want any problems and wants to be friendly.  Well, fuck him.  I'm not the kind to seek revenge.  I don't plan to be disrespectful or mean to him.  But, I'm not playing nice neighbor now that he threw a big temper tantrum over something that was really none of his concern and forced me to undo all that work I did.  God, he's irritating.